Most of your life is made up of a sequence of micro decisions. If you don't include making some choices for yourself to restore your energy, you're in for some burnout and resentment toward others and even yourself.
Pressures will always be there for you to do what's expected from others (society, family, friends, etc.). While you may feel pulled in multiple directions, you always have the choice to say no. Saying no can be challenging, but like anything, the more you do it, the more comfortable you will become.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed or torn about a choice you must make, it’s time to pause and listen to what your inner voice is telling you. So much of the time we move too fast in order to get more done, but we don’t have to do that when it comes to pausing for reflection. If you’re having trouble slowing your mind down to focus because there are a number of things you’re experiencing all at once, it’s time to take out a notebook/journal/electronic device to record what your inner voice is trying to say.
Pay special attention when your inner voice is expressing dread about an event or task you were initially interested in or excited about. Dread is usually a sign that there is a deeper meaning beneath the feeling. If you take the time to discover what's buried below the surface, you could find a number of reasons for the feeling. Keep your focus on this single feeling and ask yourself through written form, why you’re feeling this way.
In my experience, the biggest reason for feelings of dread has been because I didn’t have enough energy. When and if this is the case for you, it’s a signal that you must prioritize the time to recharge. If you can shuffle things around to give yourself some much-needed rest, you may surprise yourself how much more energy you have, not to mention that feeling of dread may simply vanish. In the event you can’t step away to recharge, then it becomes imperative to do so as soon as possible.